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Do you wish you could feel more intimate with your partner? Has your sexual relationship lost it's passion and sense of connection? Do you wonder where your desire and excitement went and would rather read a book or watch t.v. than be sensual or sexual with your partner? If so, you might want to call Suki Hanfling for a free 15-20 minute phone consultation to explore whether couples/sex therapy might be helpful.

As Founder/Director of The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy (ISI), I offer treatment of sexual dissatisfaction, sexual dysfunction, and sexual addiction. heterosexual, gay, lesbian and bisexual individuals and couples.Her treatment approach emphasizes the individual growth of each partner as well as the enhancement of the couple relationship.

I work with both members of a couple whenever possible.I have found that when one partner experiences sexual difficulties, the other partner generally influences and is affected by these problems. However, it is possible to successfully conduct sex therapy with an individual.

Although there are often multiple factors contributing to sexual difficulties, we begin sex therapy by addressing the most immediate and specific causes, such as communication difficulties, being 'time starved' due to life's stresses, and performance anxiety. When indicated, therapy can then focus on more complex causes, including difficulties with trust, control, and intimacy.

When there is a history of sexual abuse or trauma difficulties with sexual desire and functioning are common. Our therapists are specifically trained to address these sensitive issues. Couples therapy and education about the impact of the abuse are combined with sex therapy to promote sexual healing. In these situations, the active and empathic participation of both partners is particularly important.