Personal Statement

You're constantly helping everyone, you're a natural. Whether it be your kids, your spouse, friends, family and your clients. You stay BUSY, BUSY, BUSY. You are the YES person. You secretly wish you could start saying no and not take on so much. Yet, when you have tried to say no there was a push back and a weird look you got, so you went back to yes (secretly frustrated and dang exhausted). You have more than you could ask for in your life yet, your stress level is way too high. You keep thinking you should start making more time for yourself but have no idea where that time would fit or how to hold yourself accountable. You dream of that beach vacation, a hot bath and a weekend to do nothing. I see you. I was you.

Visualizing how much I had left in your cup each night when I got home from helping everyone else made me realize I was on a path of destruction for myself, my family and my livelihood of helping others. I gave all day to everyone else because it filled me up, but then a few years in made me a bit of a martyr and freaking exhausted. I would never ask you to do the work I haven't done, and I can speak from my own experience in grad school that EMDR completely changed my life. It made me set firm boundaries that I struggled with and I learned how to say no to more things and transform my life by processing my own negative thoughts of feeling "I'm responsible" and "I'm in control."

I'm Jessica, I'm jokingly called by many clients as the anxiety guru and the Gottman couples counselor for helpers. I offer both walk therapy nearby Vandalia IL or online therapy throughout the state of Illinois. I am go with the flow, non judgmental and offer quick solutions to get results.