About

When I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, my two answers were Neurosurgeon and a Therapist. I never had the aptitude or drive to become a surgeon, and I know why I wanted to be a therapist. Trauma is part of my lived history. I had a therapist when I was a child, and the only thing I could remember was feeling safe. She was older; I loved going to my sessions. Her office was the safest place for me at this time in my life. Here is where I learned to be resilient. Later after I left that therapist, I found ways to survive in my life. One of the resources I had was my imagination. I loved Star Trek TNG; all the characters provided me with specific resources, and I would play out my life through the lens of Star Trek. Some of the best episodes for me as a young person were with my two favorite characters. Deana Troi and Lieutenant Data. It’s interesting to reflect on these characters. Data represent a protector, and Deana provides me with secure attachment. I’d pretend that I was rescued by Data, an orphaned child and parented by Deana Troi. As I grew older, this image helped me through an unhappy childhood until I could be old enough to start reparenting myself. Ultimately, my examples of secure attachment are why I became a therapist. These earlier influencers helped me look for adults who could provide me with this same example, and I found them somewhere people my age surviving just like I did. I imagined that I could help others move through their trauma, hurt, and pain. a queer, transgender, and nonbinary individual with a non-traditional spiritual practice and collaborative approach to my therapy, finding the right therapist is essential. Whether in rural situations or a big city—the therapy room is a space where a client doesn't have to explain or educate a therapist about sexuality, open relationships, polyamory, BDSM, body size, disability, chronic health issues, experiences of oppression, or racism. You are valid. I believe everyone is an expert in their own life, and I am not an expert in your life.