What Can I Expect From Marriage Counseling?
Marriage counseling is intended to provide guidance, education, and a safe place to air differences. However, it is not a long-term solution to the issues in your relationship. You do not need to be the expert, and you do not need to know what is wrong.
A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) is equipped to lead you toward discovery and provide you with tools to address your needs. With that said, you do need to work at reconciliation (or an amicable divorce if this is the best option for your marriage).
- Have goals, for yourself, mapped out. Although you may want your partner to change, you are only in charge of your behavior.
- Be open and honest. It is only through complete vulnerability that the therapist, your partner, and you can see the clear picture.
- Dedicate time to making therapy work. You may have to commit to weekly sessions. You may have to commit to homework. You may have to face some ugly truths about you and your marriage, but nonetheless, you have to follow through to meet your goals.
Marriage counseling is not a cure for all that ails, but it is a means to gain the insight and professional guidance that your relationship needs to move through and beyond the current conflict.