The Key To Inner Balance: Understanding How Emotions Work

The Key To Inner Balance: Understanding How Emotions Work

Inner balance sounds nice, doesn’t it?  Inner balance is something most of us strive for.  Yet, do we actually know what inner balance means, or, more importantly, how to achieve it?  Through understanding the true nature of inner balance, we can begin to consider ways to achieve it.

What is Inner Balance?

When we attain inner balance, we have achieved a state of stability – emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.  This stability that comes with inner balance allows us to feel more grounded, mindful, resilient, and overall, have a more positive.   Unfortunately, there are many things in life that make attaining inner balance a big challenge.  In fact, almost anything in life has the potential to move us away from inner balance: other people, work, loss, fear, thoughts, schedules, procrastination, pollution, noise, the weather, and on, and on.

Life is chaotic, and it is hard to turn that chaos into calm.   Luckily, we all have the capacity to access the essential tool to achieving inner balance – our emotions.    Through understanding, feeling, and processing our emotions, we can begin to establish a sense of inner ease, balance, and internal peace.

Adaptive versus Maladaptive Emotional Processing

Processing our emotions is essential.  Our emotions carry energy, and that energy needs to be released.  Yet, more often than not, the tendency is to inhibit our emotions.  We inhibit our emotions when we attempt to repress, distract, or avoid our emotions.  We also inhibit our emotions when we judge them (i.e. – “I shouldn’t be so sad” or “What is wrong with me!?”).

This negative self-talk is hugely unhelpful – it solidifies that difficult emotions are “bad” and thus we “shouldn’t” feel them.  Adding insult to injury, the judgment of our emotions actually increases the intensity of the emotion(s).

We all may block our emotions from time to time.  Yet, when done consistently over time, it develops a maladaptive pattern; and this maladaptive pattern of blocking emotions comes with a cost.  Choosing to not feel our feelings means we miss out on important information.  Our emotions carry messages about what we need in any given moment, and messages that orient us toward taking action.

For those who have been suppressing, avoiding, and denying their emotions for a long time, it can be scary to think about actually feeling the feelings.  Through adaptive processing, emotions are released, rather than stored in the body.  There are various ways to begin to experience and release our emotions:

Taking these steps to begin to allow healthy emotional experiencing and processing, we are on the road to achieving inner balance.  But remember, inner balance is something that in order to be maintained requires continual work.

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